Dating go with the flow
Yes, the best I've learned is that these other people have added to my life, even if things haven't progressed to anything tangible.I just ran into one the other day, when I felt like I needed a friend, and we had a good talk. In fact, maybe I'm just dating in order to stretch that part of my nature, to see how I handle myself in various situations.I would have tried to date many people without worrying about the pressure to find someone.John Kim, LMFT, is a published writer, speaker, life coach, and a co-founder of SHFT.
But therapists have just as many, if not more, “issues” than our clients: John Kim is impatient. If you’re a fitness coach, your fitness standards are higher. What makes dating feel like water torture are expectations, timelines, outcomes, game playing, judgment, pressure, not communicating (leaving people in the dark), and checklists.
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.